When my son was 2 years old, I began to feel a certain urgency about the world.
At the time, I had been in a marriage of convenience that was ending in divorce, and we had decided to move in with my ex-wife and her children, leaving my wife behind for good.
My son was just 6 years old.
As the years passed, I found myself growing more and more aware of the injustice of my situation, the things that I had done to my children.
As I grew older, I came to understand that my actions toward my children were not only wrong but also cruel and unforgivable.
I had done nothing wrong, but I had hurt them deeply.
When I began the process of healing, I took a moment to ask myself, What would my children have said if they knew what I did?
They would have said, I would never hurt you.
But the thought of what my children would say would have horrified me, because I did.
And the thought that I was a monster had haunted me, too.
As I began my journey to understanding myself, I started to learn that I also did not deserve to be loved and nurtured as a child, but that I could become a parent through the love of my children, and in turn, the love and care of my husband and children.
My journey began with my faith.
It was my faith that allowed me to understand the injustice in my world, that allowed my son to learn to love me, that enabled me to see that the world was not as bad as it seemed, that my love was something more precious than my marriage and children, that I would be able to heal and become the person I knew I could be.
I became a Christian because I believed that the Bible teaches that God is good and that there is no God but Jesus Christ.
The Bible says, “Love God with all your heart and with all the heart of your soul.
Do good to all who call on your name, that they may have the grace of your name.”
It is my faith in God that allowed for me to become a father, to heal, to see my children grow, to be able recognize the love in the eyes of my wife and children and to realize that my family was the greatest blessing of my life.
And it is my conviction in God and my faith and the truth about love that allows me to make peace with my wife, to make her love me with my whole heart, and to forgive her for the ways in which I have hurt her.
What did my faith teach me?
What is it about love and the love that comes with it that makes it so difficult to understand?
It teaches me that my life, my family, my children are all beautiful and precious things.
But in spite of all that I have done to hurt and hurt and offend my children and my wife in all these years, it is not enough to know that I am a good parent, that love is not only a great blessing, but it is the only way that I can truly love and give my children the life they deserve.
Love does not come in the form of money, of fame, of wealth, of power, of recognition or of respect.
Love comes in the presence of love, which is something that cannot be taught, it cannot be earned, and it cannot come from power or status.
Love is a gift that can be earned through the power of the Spirit, which has been given to me in the name of Jesus Christ, and which I give every day to all people of good will and good hope.
I love my children for the love they have given me.
And when they are good, my love becomes greater than the love I have given them.
This book is not meant to be a sermon on what to do in marriage.
My wife and I are both good people who are striving for the best for our family.
We believe that marriage is a life-giving, God-given institution that can create a home where children are nurtured, where parents are trusted to care for them, and where love reigns.
We are grateful for the wonderful gifts that we have received and we have a wonderful family.
But we do not live in a perfect world.
I know that my wife is an amazing woman, a person of immense beauty and compassion, a loving mother, a kind, loving husband, and a strong, compassionate husband.
And I am grateful for my faith, the wisdom of the Scriptures, and the loving relationships that have shaped my family.
My goal in writing this book is to help other couples and families to realize the blessings that come with loving and caring relationships.
We cannot allow ourselves to be distracted by the struggles and disappointments of marriage.
It is not our job to judge our marriage, but to look into our hearts and ask ourselves, What does love mean to me? How can I